Toy Pony - I've been down the mail order chip path, as have others. I was trying to fix drivability issues. After 4 reburns (with 4 tunes each time, as it was a 4 way switch chip), I finally gave up and got my tweecer. Haven't looked back since.
There is no way I would get a mail order chip tune done to your combo, especially since you are wanting to do away with the FMU. There is no way for the tuner to be accurate with the WOT a/f, so they will err toward the rich side, which can really make your car a dog.
If you can make it to AFM, that is what I would do. They can put it on the dyno, run the wideband at the same time, and really dial your combo in. If your combo will never change again, that is the better (and cheaper) way to do it.
However, if you plan on upgrading/changing your combo any time soon, you should really look into some type of tune it your self system, whether it be the PMS, tweecer, etc. The learning curve is steep for any of them, as you are not only learning how fuel injection works and it's terminology, you are learning a new piece of software and it's terminology as well, and then trying to interpolate between the two of them.
If you go the mail order route, plan on getting at least one reburn. And if your fmu is off to work with the chip, then you'll either have to let the car sit, or you'll have to reinstall the fmu until the chip gets back.
You can prob. figure $500 plus for a chip plus dyno tuning. $550 + a laptop will get you a tweecer r/t with datalogging (I got an old cheap laptop, ~50 bux).
If you are dead set on a mail order chip, Byron at racesystems.com is very good as well, and will work with your combo until it is right. He uses autologic chips, and offers a 4 position chip along with a single burn chip.